I apologize for being so deliquint in my updates.  I have been out of town for almost a month so I unfortunately haven't been much help or even been able to really see anyone in the family. I was able to stop in two weeks ago and see dad for a few hours. Mom was on her way out the door for work but said she wasn't feeling great. I hadn't seen dad in about two weeks and he didn't seem too different to me however he had a major black eye and his feet were extremely swollen. He said he had fallen into the water cooler... Again thinking he can do a lot more then he is really capable of. As far as his feet I asked him if the doctor had any suggestion of what could help. He didn't really give me much response. He said that they think it is from his sleep apnea.. I don't believe that. I've also asked him how his dr appointments have been but he doesn't give much info on that either. The most recent with the dr was that she set up a sleep clinic for both mom and dad to see if they can figure out why neither of them are sleeping. I personally think that dad just needs to get in bed and take his sleeping pill at a regular hour but I think mom gets so tired at night she falls asleep before him and then he's up all night and consequently wakes her up... oye vey ... they did their sleep clinic last night so we'll see...
So as I was boarding my plane for my most recent trip Angie called to inform me that mom had pneumonia and was checking herself into the hospital and she didn't know what to do about dad. Of course the Charles's were in town again to see them! Maybe mom is allergic the them :) She always seems to end up in the hospital when they are in town :)   Angie had them all over for dinner one night and I think they had a great time.
Anyhoo... dad was checked into a nursing home in the rainier area for a week, while mom recuperated. Angie has offered to do one or two nights a week with dad so mom can sleep more, and also Megan Firnstahl a great family friend is working a few days a week helping with dad. She has also offered to do a later shift until more like 2am. We are going to meet with providence elder place as a family and see if we can figure something out. Obviously mom is completely run down and can't keep up all this. She does however need to start taking care of herself as well! We're all getting on her to make sure she is eating and when she eats that she is eating things of nutritional value... feel free to make sure she's had her greens and protein if you talk to her :)
On a positive note dad absolutely LOVES his new caregiver efrum. Efrum even came to see him when he was in the nursing home. I still have not met him but am hoping to this week!
Thank you to everyone who was able to help out over the last week or so. I was a little helpless as I boarded the plane, but I know dad had lots of visitors in the nursing center and mom had lots of help in her recouping as well.